“Loving or hating the life you are living is solely all in your repeated self-talk.” ― Edmond Mbiaka
I did a post about 'T.O.Y.G.B: How do you speak to your children?' (click here to check it out!) a while back and the neglected the fact, it's also important how we speak to ourselves.
What Is Self-Talk?
Self-Talk is an inner conversation in which we have with ourselves. It has the ability to empower or defeats us. This depends on whether it is constantly negative or positive and can even be an equal share of both. The way we view and feel about ourselves, could literally determine our outlook on life. It can create you opportunities as well as threats, uplift or lower you, give you peace of mind or doubt. I'm sure you catch the drift, the effects are limitless.
"It's not what we say out loud that really determines our lives.
It's what we whisper to ourselves that has the most power."
Are you aware?
I personally believe first and foremost, you need to be aware of how you respond to yourself throughout all circumstances. As we know, each circumstance produces us to react in ways which tends to affect us in untold ways. We physically can not control the outcome to every situation but we do have the power to control ourselves.
Food4Thought: None of us are perfect but if I'm are not aware of my words and actions, how can I change the effect it will have on me.
"What is necessary to change a person is to change his awareness of himself."
- Abraham Maslow
Let's Play Catch!
Initially, when a situation occurs and has a negative impact, it can start off with small talk such as I'm dumb or stupid etc... From here, whilst dwelling deeper on the situation such words as I can't do it or this always happens to me start to form and from there on, it is simply I don't deserve or I'm not good enough. The list goes on!
Learning how to catch yourself, is another important aspect of self-talk and also relates to being self-aware. This mainly applies when your self-talk is negative because as you can see from my example above, negative self-talk can cause a drastic downwards spiral.
At no point do I believe this is a easy thing to do but I do know, we can retrain ourselves at any point during our lives.
Catch - The Gift of Catch is to catch yourself before the downwards spiral.
Throw - The Gift of Throw is to release yourself from the thoughts that bring you down.
Rebuild - The Gift of Rebuilding is you are now able to replace your self-talk with words and phases which rebuild you. Learning and recognising what you can do better next time is a great place to start. You have the chance to write it down and look back to see improvements. Also applying daily affirmations to your life can surprise you.
“The way you choose to think and speak about yourself (to yourself and others), IS A CHOICE! You may have spent your whole life talking about yourself in a negative way, but that doesn't mean you have to continue that path.”
- Miya Yamanouchi
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- David James
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